This Is One Of Those Inspiring Stories That Will Touch The Hearts Of All South Africans

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I most often write about stories I have heard or those I am involved in – heartwarming stories that defy all ‘norms’ and quiet definitely prove that there are still individuals out there who are willing to risk their own safety for the life of another.

This amazing story is about my friend, Merrick Bluett : I am particularly grateful and blessed not only to have the opportunity of sharing his story but to know this individual who carried out such an act of heroism. To be able to call him my friend, another hero to add to the list of amazing people I am fortunate enough to know.

It happened approximately three weeks ago whilst road tripping through this beautiful country of ours, South Africa. Whilst driving on the highway between Harrismith and home, Merrick did not know he was about to change the life of another individual and his own forever.

The road is as straight as an arrow as you drive past the tiny town of Warden and yet this stretch of tar has claimed many lives, I do not know the name of the individuals’ life who was saved from becoming one of these statistics – but in this story we will refer to him as “Lucky” as this is what he was.

After driving a huge truck possibly for hours on end Lucky’s eyes slowly closed in absolute exhaustion and in that instant the truck he was driving landed up in a river quickly drowning beneath the muddy water.

Luckily for Lucky at exactly the same time, on the opposite side of the road driving in the opposite direction, Merrick noticed two large trucks on the other side of the highway, As the trucks passed each other one of them  – a  large truck carrying a container-  veered towards the concrete barrier which separated it from the rushing, treacherous water meters below. Merrick watched in horror as the truck, carrying Lucky, hit the solid barrier and flipped over into the murky waters as though it was as light as a feather being dragged by the wind.

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Merrick slammed on his brakes in anticipation of the debris and chaos that would ensue, as surely there would be further wreckage and pile-ups? instead all went still as people stopped their cars got out and along with a few pedestrians glanced over the side of the barrier. Merrick got out of his car and began running. Defying the selfish nature of most humans in society today, to watch and observe: he did what any individual with empathy and compassion would have  – he decided to save Lucky and in doing so risk his own life.

As he saw the truck slipping beneath the water, Merrick jumped over the side of the barrier and tried to make his way down a rocky, muddy and steep slope. He slid half way down but with adrenalin pumping through his veins, felt no pain or fear. This was a matter of life or death. Not his own but that of a stranger he was about to encounter. Jumping into the icy, turbulent and muddied water Merrick realised just how quickly the truck was sinking, and glancing down he knew that if he didn’t reach it in a matter of seconds he would not be able to help. Using every last nth of energy he had Merrick swam over and began to navigate his was towards the front on the truck. The low visibility of the water meant that he would have to feel his way towards Lucky. After identifying the thick metal cable which holds the front of the truck to its enormous trailer Merrick shouted out hoping against all odds that someone would respond. Lucky did. He waved his hands in the air, in shock and only able to speak in his native tongue, Lucky could barely explain that he was unable to swim or that sadly their was another passenger still trapped in the wreckage.

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In times like these one has to face a tough choice. Save the life of one individual or tempt the hands of time and fate and attempt to save what is already gone. In this instance Merrick made that choice and it turned out to be the right one. He reached Lucky and even though he was by now exhausted managed to hold him up and get them both to the dry land and safety.

Paramedics had arrived on the scene, onlookers where still doing only that: looking on and yet only one individual came halfway down the rivers banks to ask if Merrick could identify the name of the company on the truck – does this in itself not indicate a loss of humanity in the human race? What would happen to you if in dire straights you did not have a “Merrick” on the scene to save your life.

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At the end of this traumatic day. Lucky survived the accident. The other passenger was killed on impact. Merrick made the choice and saved the life of a stranger turning a tragedy into one of the most heroic stories I have heard lately.

Discussing this over a coffee with Merrick was amazing. His response to my why? how? what ifs? was simple. He wanted to help and in his own way he hoped that this would show South Africans, tarnished by prejudice and hatred that we are a rainbow nation. We are one nation made up of individuals black, white, Indian or Chinese who should and can look at each other and see no differences. How we behave towards each other has a direct impact on our own lives.. as they say ” what goes around comes around” and at the end of the day we can only hope that our actions are good, our intentions are always honourable and our hearts pure enough that we attract the same virtues in others we are surrounded by.

Merrick has since been contacted by countless investigators wanting to know what happened for insurance purposes – money is by far the root of all evil when you consider they are most likely trying to get out of paying when an individuals life was lost. But on a happy note and although he it does not mean as much to him as saving Lucky, Merrick is to receive The Order of Mendi for Bravery from the South African Government – i believe he deserves it and  trust this story will get the recognition it deserves for the purposes Merrick wishes.

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“I expect to pass through life but once.  If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again. ” ~William Penn

For My Mom – I Love You

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People say “I love you,”
But what is love?
Is it the white feathers,
On an evening dove?

Is it the way the sun shines,
Every moment so bright,
Or maybe its the way a person’s eyes sparkle,
When you whisper, “Goodnight?”

Is it the morning dew,
On the grassy hill sides,
Is it the flow of water,
In the late evening tide?

The Oxford English dictionary says,
Love is a deep affection,
What they don’t explain,
Is how to create such a strong connection?

I don’t know much about love,
But what I do,
Is that no words can describe it more than,
I feel it for you.

It may not be the sun, the water or the due,
It may just be that love is everything you do.

It is the way your face lifts,
When you grace anyone with your smile,
The way you dance around,
Reminds me of your classy style.

It is the way you care for me,
In so many ways,
And the way you do this,
Every moment, of every day

Its the way you enjoy every moment,
Than inspires me to live,
And as I do so,
To you I share all the love we can give.

Mom,
My angel from above,
Because nothing can describe it better,
Than that special word “Love”

Jojo Bayvel, Dee Bayvel

 

 

Finding That Song That Applies To You… Strong Enough To Be My Man

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God, I feel like hell tonight
Tears of rage I cannot fight
I’d be the last to help you understand
Are you strong enough to be my man, my man?

Nothing’s true and nothing’s right
So let me be alone tonight
Cause you can’t change the way I am
Are you strong enough to be my man?

Lie to me
I promise I’ll believe
Lie to me
But please don’t leave, don’t leave

I have a face I cannot show
I make the rules up as I go
Just try and love me if you can
Are you strong enough to be my man, my man?

Are you strong enough to be my man?
Are you strong enough to be my man?
Are you strong? My man.

When I’ve shown you that I just don’t care
When I’m throwing punches in the air
When I’m broken down and I can’t stand
Would you be man enough to be my man?

Lie to me
I promise I’ll believe
Lie to me
But please don’t leave

The Actual Difference Between Women Who Are Hot And Who Are Beautiful – absolutely loved this article

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I am a girl or rather a lady who is often seen as plastic or fake because I wear make-up, have thick lips and blonde hair ( note to those reading this and who know me as: the rumours go and most believe – no I have not had Botox, my lips are real and so are my eyelashes and my hair is an ashy blonde, not a nice blonde hence the reason for my highlights, but still I am a natural blonde) besides if I had had so much done to my face I often beg the question or retort when asked it … I obviously forgot to mention to my plastic surgeon that I have a body and would have had a boob job first! I am not blessed in this department and it is the only surgery I will ever have. Anyway enough about that. After ranting about my looks: this is the whole reason I found this article so interesting and quite honestly touching…

Where are the men like this? I guess what people perceive me as, is partially judged and deduced by Facebook and or Instagram pics and hence those times that when I do go to a party or event ( rarely these days ) I do dress up… The honest truth is that during the week and 90% of the time I am in jeans and a tank top or t-shirt, slops or sneakers and my hair is in a really not so cool looking messy ponytail – my make-up is limited to a bit of mascara and blusher and that is the real me. My family and friends think this is when I look beautiful ( me not so much ). Hence why this article rang so true. Society has convinced us that being done up is what we need to do in order to be beautiful, when in fact it is just a fake perception of non reality ie no one looks like a million dollars when they wake up in the morning barefaced and hair standing up in every which direction.

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Me – mascara & blush .. hair not even brushed

 

 

 

 

 

 

But maybe just maybe there are men out there and one man ( my fairytale boy ) who will look at me lying on the pillow sans make-up and hair fanned out … not so glamoursly – and at that moment I will take his breath away as he sees the beauty in my heart and soul and I guess as attraction is important … In my face too. Is it so wrong to want him to think I am the most beautiful girl he has ever seen because he loves me and not because I look (and I don’t ) like Heidi Klum … But because I look, naturally, like me.

Here it is: to the ladies let’s try get back to this, and to the men –  Marry a girl whose beauty takes your breath away when you glance at her sitting drinking her morning coffee not a showgirl who takes your friends and an audiences’ breath away when she arrives at a party sans half her dress after 20 subbed sessions. Maybe she will love you for you then, and not the size of your wallet which can only contribute to her grooming ritual and wardrobe and instead, love your for your intelligence, humour and I guess just because you are you.

The Actual Difference Between Women Who Are Hot And Women Who Are Beautiful

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Women. We’re curvy, skinny, hood, pretty, cute, ethnic, bad, dime pieces, unicorns, babes, pieces of tail, juicy, fine, sexy, foxes, sultry, voluptuous… The list goes on.

When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman with an adjective that isn’t dripping in sexual innuendos and defaming premises? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman by something that compliments her soul and her inherent elegance? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman as beautiful?

There’s been a loss of respect when it comes to admiring women, shifting towards describing us as objects, rather than people. Men look at women as pieces of tail, “things” to be conquered, rather than appreciating women for their individuality.

A large portion of today’s men are momentarily allured by hair extensions, large chests, big bottoms and stilettos. They think sexuality comes in the form of bronzed skin, bikini waxes and fake eyelashes. They’ve been programmed to believe that any woman with a sculpted body and perky breasts is attractive.

What about the women who don’t want to indulge in the male fantasy? What about the women who just want to wear comfortable sweaters and flats? What about the women who don’t dress to impress the opposite sex, but instead, to just feel good in their own skin? Isn’t there attractiveness in that? Isn’t there an appeal to that sense of confidence?

When did women become forced to acquiesce to this standard, or otherwise get lost in the crowd? When did getting a man mean painting on layers of makeup and investing in mini skirts?

There is a certain type of man that continually defames women, judging them solely on sex appeal, failing to see the actual grandeur of women. These are the men who don’t understand the concept of natural beauty and uniqueness in flaws.

They don’t recognize that “hotness” doesn’t last past midnight, when the makeup has smudged onto the pillow and the hair extensions have been taken out. It doesn’t last when the spray tans have washed away and the tight dresses have come off.

It’s not real; it’s an illusion that’s been forcing women to conform to unhealthy habits for too many years.

It’s time these men are reminded of the difference between hot and beautiful. It’s time men realize that women have more to offer than just a body.

Women are stunning creatures, with assets and traits both unique and enchanting to each one of us, and it’s time we started showcasing our individuality and stop giving in to the illusion of sexy created by man. Because beauty isn’t about wanting to f*ck her; it’s about wanting to be with her.

Hot is admired from afar; beauty is to be held.

Hot is perception; beauty is appreciation.

Hot is smokey-eyed; beautiful is bare-faced.

Hot is an appearance; beautiful is more than skin deep.

Hot is the way she moans; beautiful is the way she speaks.

Hot is a strong appeal; beautiful is strong mind.

Hot is youthful; beautiful is ageless.

Hot is conventional; beauty is unique.

Hot is a one-night stand; beautiful is sleepless nights.

Hot is a state of being; beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Hot is devious; beautiful is innocent.

Hot is bending her over; beautiful is baking her blueberry pancakes.

Hot is sultry; beautiful is wholesome.

Hot is her curves; beauty is her nerves.

Hot is a text message; beautiful is a love letter.

Hot is a facade; beautiful is a woman.

Top Photo Courtesy: We Heart It

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