An Ordinary Girl On An Extraordinary Journey Through Life
Author: JoJo Bayvel
Welcome to my blog or journey through life. As a Digital Marketing Exec for 19yrs, my blog is about life outside the faux world of Social Media - it is about honesty, realness and an appeal to others that NO ONE has a perfect life, YET it can still be a perfectly happy life.
I write as often as possible but sometimes creativity escapes me and pictures or things I find along my journey, will have to do…I write from my heart & don't often check up on grammar for my own posts so grammar police .... mmm you know.
I am a tiny 5"3 girl next; an ordinary girl living an extraordinary life.
I am also an incredibly happy person (with the happy gene) but hey, we all have our issues; you will read about mine here, and if you need to chat drop me a line anytime firstname.lastname@example.org.
A little Bio on me
I am a 37 -going on 14 or 40- year old girl living in Cape Town and of course….limbo… am I on the shelf or do I want to actually marry? I am incredibly fussy & believe in fairytales and forever after. Been proposed to 3 times said no as I want an always love...
Typical Gemini…Princess & Tomboy!
Lady and loud, love marketing, art, fashion, sport, Jesus, travel & most of all helping others - it's what makes me heart smile.
I love comfort zones and adventure too? Crave travel, new people and places, never want to move?!?!?
Will always love animals, my family and friends – break-ups always result in me losing a dog!!!
Feisty, stubborn yet soft hearted with a pretty hard outer cover!
Crave love but bore easily… Want & adore kids and to be happily married but dread monotony. Need freedom, space, music and time to breathe but thrive on others company….♥”
Thank you so very much, for reading my posts & any part of my journey through life.
Love isn’t always perfect and about romance (I wish it was) but sometimes it’s just a plain but beautiful mess.
We all come from different backgrounds. Some of us grew up in a loving and encouraging family, and some of us didn’t. We’ve probably all had some kind of relationship in our lives that has left us feeling hurt. You can’t control your outside circumstances. I wish we could. What you can control is your own choices. It can be hard to love when you feel broken. If you don’t come to any relationship (romantic, friendship, family) whole, you end up (1) asking others to fill in the broken pieces or (2) shutting them out completely. You first have to love yourself. Then, you can offer relationships your strengths rather than looking to them to fix your weaknesses. We all have the power to make this decision no matter what hand life has dealt us.
We all receive and give love in so many different ways to so many different people in our lives. And I think we can all agree we all need love in return. It’s absolutely necessary to having a happy life. At nearly 39 I do have love on the brain these days, but will I simply settle as the clock ticks over. Never. Love might not be easy, but I still want that soul wrenching beautiful mess.
Be someone you would love.
It is always easier to blame others. Always. What’s hard is looking to yourself and realizing that maybe it’s you who needs to change. Before you have amazing relationships you have to be someone you would love. Be the mother you would want. Be the girlfriend you would fall in love with. This is a lifelong process the important people in your life will help you with if you are open to it. Stop focusing on others’ shortcomings so much and instead work on yourself. Me = stubborn 😁
Don’t hold back. Don’t hold grudges. Go all in. We’ve probably all been hurt before, and I’m not saying we should ignore those situations. But. Don’t let past hurts prevent you from making new relationships or falling in love. This almost happened to me. I was hurt and felt justified in my unwillingness to forgive even though my circumstances had changed. Don’t be afraid to love deeply. It can be scary to depend on anyone. Be open. Be brave. But never ignore the red flags : ).
Choose your important relationships.
I truly believe that we should love everyone. An attitude of love to your fellow citizens is a great way to live your life. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone did this? However, this does not mean that you should open yourself up to being hurt over and over again. Choose the people who you cultivate important relationships with. If someone has continually been a negative influence in your life, or doesn’t treat you the way you deserve, then they should not receive the privilege of being one of your close relationships. Focus on the positive influences in your life. Love them deeply.
Every important relationship in your life requires attention in order for it to grow. I am so guilty of being that friend who doesn’t call back. It is SO easy to get busy with your life, with work or school or whatever you are passionate about and not focus on cultivating the love in your life. I should get dinner with my mom more often. I should get coffee with my sisters more (work meetings don’t count!). If you neglect any relationship it will decline over time. I’ve had many friends over the years that I’ve sort of drifted apart from simply because I didn’t make time for them. Being a giving and loving person takes a lot of intential effort. And that’s something that I’m working on this year.
A magic switch isn’t going to suddenly reset this chaotic world tonight at 12pm.
So no New Years Resolutions from me, just a fond farewell to a painful 2020 – the saddest year ever for myself and so many, BUT with a sign of silver lining appearing lately.
So instead of wishing you all the best for 2021.
All I do is pray for your health. That you are loved completely. That you appreciate all you have and give where you can. That you get to spend more time with loved ones. That this crazy pandemic ends and we return to some kind of normality. That you learn to be gentle and patient and slow to anger. I pray that you will be able to hug and kiss those you treasure before the end of 2021.
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Unit 3 @ No 1 Chapmans Peak Drive was designed and renovated into a bespoke, sophisticated, modern apartment with a homely ambience. Stepping inside, you will immediately sense that the furnishings, finishes, lighting and artwork have been professionally selected. You will feel as if you are in a private luxurious cocoon, perched on top of some of the most beautiful white sandy beaches in the world. Watch the sunset and the view of the entire bay area, from the large open plan living and dining room or your main room via floor to ceiling concertina glass windows, take in the beauty of dolphins playing, yachts lying anchored and fishermen’s ferry’s returning from their day’s catch. A State of the art kitchen provides everything you need for your stay and opens up onto the lounge/dining room. The bedrooms are divine as both are large with comfortable beds. A large king size in the main room and double in the second room, fitted with stunning linen. Both en suite – what a pleasure! These en suite bathrooms include 2 large separate showers and a bath. You also have a guest bathroom. As you sit right on the Atlantic Ocean, feel the tantalizing smell and presence of the ocean, the touch of a sea breeze and the wonder of a star filled sky at night. Enjoy a morning coffee and breakfast, on the oceans edge to the the sound of waves crashing onto the white sand with the beach just a few steps away. The apartment houses views of the azure Atlantic Ocean as well as the entire bay that makes up HoutBay and further up the coast.
Hunter Emms is a precious 5 year old with an Optical Nerve Glioma. It is inoperable and will need chemo and/or radiation treatment to counter it’s growth his whole life. It already affects his eyesight, balance and co ordination and despite being benign is life threatening if not treated. He was originally diagnosed at 18 months and undergone chemo for a season.
Most recently Hunter’s tumor has grown significantly despite the MEK inhibitors and he is facing another year of chemo and then radiation.
We are wanting to raise support for his family (Barry, Shirley and Finn) to cover the medical costs that their medical aid oncology benefit doesn’t cover as well as the specialists needed for his care (Physios, ophthalmologists, Chiropractors, a pediatric neurosurgeon, pain and nausea meds, therapists and dietary requirements.)
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