I am a girl or rather a lady who is often seen as plastic or fake because I wear make-up, have thick lips and blonde hair ( note to those reading this and who know me as: the rumours go and most believe – no I have not had Botox, my lips are real and so are my eyelashes and my hair is an ashy blonde, not a nice blonde hence the reason for my highlights, but still I am a natural blonde) besides if I had had so much done to my face I often beg the question or retort when asked it … I obviously forgot to mention to my plastic surgeon that I have a body and would have had a boob job first! I am not blessed in this department and it is the only surgery I will ever have. Anyway enough about that. After ranting about my looks: this is the whole reason I found this article so interesting and quite honestly touching…
Where are the men like this? I guess what people perceive me as, is partially judged and deduced by Facebook and or Instagram pics and hence those times that when I do go to a party or event ( rarely these days ) I do dress up… The honest truth is that during the week and 90% of the time I am in jeans and a tank top or t-shirt, slops or sneakers and my hair is in a really not so cool looking messy ponytail – my make-up is limited to a bit of mascara and blusher and that is the real me. My family and friends think this is when I look beautiful ( me not so much ). Hence why this article rang so true. Society has convinced us that being done up is what we need to do in order to be beautiful, when in fact it is just a fake perception of non reality ie no one looks like a million dollars when they wake up in the morning barefaced and hair standing up in every which direction.
But maybe just maybe there are men out there and one man ( my fairytale boy ) who will look at me lying on the pillow sans make-up and hair fanned out … not so glamoursly – and at that moment I will take his breath away as he sees the beauty in my heart and soul and I guess as attraction is important … In my face too. Is it so wrong to want him to think I am the most beautiful girl he has ever seen because he loves me and not because I look (and I don’t ) like Heidi Klum … But because I look, naturally, like me.
Here it is: to the ladies let’s try get back to this, and to the men – Marry a girl whose beauty takes your breath away when you glance at her sitting drinking her morning coffee not a showgirl who takes your friends and an audiences’ breath away when she arrives at a party sans half her dress after 20 subbed sessions. Maybe she will love you for you then, and not the size of your wallet which can only contribute to her grooming ritual and wardrobe and instead, love your for your intelligence, humour and I guess just because you are you.
The Actual Difference Between Women Who Are Hot And Women Who Are Beautiful
Women. We’re curvy, skinny, hood, pretty, cute, ethnic, bad, dime pieces, unicorns, babes, pieces of tail, juicy, fine, sexy, foxes, sultry, voluptuous… The list goes on.
When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman with an adjective that isn’t dripping in sexual innuendos and defaming premises? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman by something that compliments her soul and her inherent elegance? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman as beautiful?
There’s been a loss of respect when it comes to admiring women, shifting towards describing us as objects, rather than people. Men look at women as pieces of tail, “things” to be conquered, rather than appreciating women for their individuality.
A large portion of today’s men are momentarily allured by hair extensions, large chests, big bottoms and stilettos. They think sexuality comes in the form of bronzed skin, bikini waxes and fake eyelashes. They’ve been programmed to believe that any woman with a sculpted body and perky breasts is attractive.
What about the women who don’t want to indulge in the male fantasy? What about the women who just want to wear comfortable sweaters and flats? What about the women who don’t dress to impress the opposite sex, but instead, to just feel good in their own skin? Isn’t there attractiveness in that? Isn’t there an appeal to that sense of confidence?
When did women become forced to acquiesce to this standard, or otherwise get lost in the crowd? When did getting a man mean painting on layers of makeup and investing in mini skirts?
There is a certain type of man that continually defames women, judging them solely on sex appeal, failing to see the actual grandeur of women. These are the men who don’t understand the concept of natural beauty and uniqueness in flaws.
They don’t recognize that “hotness” doesn’t last past midnight, when the makeup has smudged onto the pillow and the hair extensions have been taken out. It doesn’t last when the spray tans have washed away and the tight dresses have come off.
It’s not real; it’s an illusion that’s been forcing women to conform to unhealthy habits for too many years.
It’s time these men are reminded of the difference between hot and beautiful. It’s time men realize that women have more to offer than just a body.
Women are stunning creatures, with assets and traits both unique and enchanting to each one of us, and it’s time we started showcasing our individuality and stop giving in to the illusion of sexy created by man. Because beauty isn’t about wanting to f*ck her; it’s about wanting to be with her.
Hot is admired from afar; beauty is to be held.
Hot is perception; beauty is appreciation.
Hot is smokey-eyed; beautiful is bare-faced.
Hot is an appearance; beautiful is more than skin deep.
Hot is the way she moans; beautiful is the way she speaks.
Hot is a strong appeal; beautiful is strong mind.
Hot is youthful; beautiful is ageless.
Hot is conventional; beauty is unique.
Hot is a one-night stand; beautiful is sleepless nights.
Hot is a state of being; beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Hot is devious; beautiful is innocent.
Hot is bending her over; beautiful is baking her blueberry pancakes.
Hot is sultry; beautiful is wholesome.
Hot is her curves; beauty is her nerves.
Hot is a text message; beautiful is a love letter.
Hot is a facade; beautiful is a woman.
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