The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Social Media

“We live in a society where the internet has created a generation of individuals who know a little about a lot, but a lot about nothing”

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Completely loved this video and article, decided I had to post and share both on my blog. Being in the digital sphere and working on social media sites all day every day, I can only concur with both.

My blog on the ‘advantages and disadvantages of social media’ is to follow soon – when I have the time to write it, in between posting to clients blogs and social media profiles (point proven?).

We are without a doubt creating a world where perception is skewed, and depression and jealousy mounts, as people rarely post something depressing or sad about their lives on any platform. Instead it is all about: (And I am guilty of a few)

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  • “Boom ,Whoop, Life is amazing” (really no problems?)
  • “Cant believe how lucky I am nothing ever goes wrong” (Haven’t even tripped over anything lately?)
  • “So In love” (Never fight? Wouldn’t post last nights argument huh?)
  • ” On holiday perfecting my tan” (really no rain ever, ever?Are you on another planet where rain doesn’t factor into the climate – it rains everywhere, even on islands?)
  • And the standard “Go Monday ready to get this week going and get results!” (lets be honest you would rather be back in bed sleeping)
  • “Gym done, New health shake tastes amazing (que an Instagram pic), Summer is 4 months away lets get beach ready” (Wow …. another week starting your detox and gym after a weekend of drinking 4000 tequilas and a couple of bottles of wine, your body is just confused! And Summer is not the only reason to be in shape – Winter clothes look pretty crap on a fat bod)

And what is with #100daysofhappiness campaigns? Why not #100daysofhonesty or #100daysofhelping others. Post what you really feel and maybe try to help someone else add a “happy update” for a change.

We live in a world ruled by perfect images of perfect people with perfect lives who live in perfect houses with perfect partners and perfect children who have perfect jobs – realistic. No, impossible.

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So I started by ranting and now it is time to stop – my blog on this topic is clearly going to be a long one – even though I am guilty as charged on a few of my own “hates”- I too am starting to get social media fatigue. It is time to go out and live in the real world. Experience moments not just photograph and upload them. Love and hug people not just like their status updates and pictures….

Look Up

Source: http://www.ndtv.com/article/offbeat/smartphones-and-dumb-people-422-friends-yet-i-m-lonely-518720

 

‘Look Up’ – A spoken word film for an online generation.

‘Look Up’ is a lesson taught to us through a love story, in a world where we continue to find ways to make it easier for us to connect with one another, but always results in us spending more time alone.

 Is Social Media a Blessing or a Curse? 

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Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susannah-meyer/is-social-media-a-blessin_b_1159088.html

The way I see it, it all depends on how these sites, like Facebook or Twitter, are being used. Social media itself can be abused, overused, and taken advantage of. However, the power of social media itself is probably greater than the power of any person, any novel, any ruler, or even any country. But, whether that incredible power is a blessing or a curse is also one matter to question.

The power of social media can be something extremely influential. This first took a huge toll in the beginning of 2011 with the political upheaval of Egypt. The Internet’s far-reaching speed combined with social media websites to create something unforgettable. The voices of Egypt stood together to overthrow the regime of Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak, and they spread all throughout the world. The power of social media was also noted when Mexicans turned to it for survival, not too long ago.

At first, this served as a revolution. For the very first time, people’s voices and opinions were coming together to form something larger than themselves. But we have to wonder, is that power too much? History has repeated itself in telling us that it becomes a problem when one voice has too much power. One only needs to look at people like Hitler, Idi Amin, and Mao Zong for proof that giving one voice too much power can sink an entire people or nation. And in Egypt, this corrupting nature of power turned itself over from the ruler to the subjects which resulted in the same horrific effect. From this, it is clear that social media has a way of lending itself to this attribute of power.

Another way social media can act as a curse is through its changing the behavior of our society. Some say social media sites can lend to shorter attentions and less efficient work. Not only that, but my generation, that is, teenagers, tends to abuse social media and use it for popularity. Despite social media being a term with the connotation of connecting us, that seems to be one thing it is doing least. People who abuse Facebook, for example, by requesting and accepting as many ‘friends’ as possible, up to thousands, are giving those relationships artificial traits. Those relationships are so scattered and insignificant that many people don’t even know some of their ‘friends.’ These thinning relationships have no such value, and are illusions of genuine relationships. In this abuse of social media, values of building relationships and making new connections, as were the intentions of social media, are taken away and transformed wrongfully. Nevertheless, many people do use social media for positive purposes, which leads me to the side of social media that is a complete blessing to this modern world.

When used correctly, the benefits of social media can far outweigh some of its downfalls. Social media changes the world every day, in ways both small and large. For everyone who uses it, social media at least promotes and encourages communication and lends to more modern ways of learning and communicating. Not only do they lend to more efficiency in our rapidly evolving technologically advanced society, but social media sites are also some of the best ways to positively influence people by sharing your opinions. They act as platforms for your voice. If you have great ideas or want to be heard or found, websites like Google+, Twitter, and LinkedIn can promote those good intentions. Through these sites, you can find millions of people who share the same interests as you, and start making a difference, step by step.

Social media websites can operate as both curses and blessings in our modern society. The difference between it as a curse and a blessing all hangs on the shoulders of its users. You may choose to abuse the potential of Facebook, or to change the world with Twitter. The difference in your actions may be small, but the end result varies greatly, and it is up to you to decide social media’s role in your life.

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Beneath Your Beautiful… What Is Beauty?

 

Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty — they merely move it from their faces into their hearts. ~Martin Buxbaum

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A Father to His Daughter….

Dear Little One,

As I write this, I’m sitting in the makeup aisle of our local Target store. A friend recently texted me from a different makeup aisle and told me it felt like one of the most oppressive places in the world. I wanted to find out what he meant. And now that I’m sitting here, I’m beginning to agree with him. Words have power, and the words on display in this aisle have a deep power. Words and phrases like:

Affordably gorgeous,

Infallible,

Flawless finish,

Brilliant strength,

Liquid power,

Go nude,

Age defying,

Instant age rewind,

Choose your dream,

Nearly naked, and

Natural beauty.

When you have a daughter you start to realize she’s just as strong as everyone else in the house—a force to be reckoned with, a soul on fire with the same life and gifts and passions as any man. But sitting in this store aisle, you also begin to realize most people won’t see her that way. They’ll see her as a pretty face and a body to enjoy. And they’ll tell her she has to look a certain way to have any worth or influence.

But words do have power and maybe, just maybe, the words of a father can begin to compete with the words of the world. Maybe a father’s words can deliver his daughter through this gauntlet of institutionalized shame and into a deep, unshakeable sense of her own worthiness and beauty.

A father’s words aren’t different words, but they are words with a radically different meaning:

Brilliant strength. May your strength be not in your fingernails but in your heart. May you discern in your center who you are, and then may you fearfully but tenaciously live it out in the world.

Choose your dream. But not from a department store shelf. Find the still-quiet place within you. A real dream has been planted there. Discover what you want to do in the world. And when you have chosen, may you faithfully pursue it, with integrity and with hope.

Naked. The world wants you to take your clothes off. Please keep them on. But take your gloves off. Pull no punches. Say what is in your heart. Be vulnerable. Embrace risk. Love a world that barely knows what it means to love itself. Do so nakedly. Openly. With abandon.

Infallible. May you be constantly, infallibly aware that infallibility doesn’t exist. It’s an illusion created by people interested in your wallet. If you choose to seek perfection, may it be in an infallible grace—for yourself, and for everyone around you.

Age defying. Your skin will wrinkle and your youth will fade, but your soul is ageless. It will always know how to play and how to enjoy and how to revel in this one-chance life. May you always defiantly resist the aging of your spirit.

Flawless finish. Your finish has nothing to do with how your face looks today and everything to do with how your life looks on your last day. May your years be a preparation for that day. May you be aged by grace, may you grow in wisdom, and may your love become big enough to embrace all people. May your flawless finish be a peaceful embrace of the end and the unknown that follows, and may it thus be a gift to everyone who cherishes you.

Little One, you love everything pink and frilly and I will surely understand if someday makeup is important to you. But I pray three words will remain more important to you—the last three words you say every night, when I ask the question: “Where are you the most beautiful?” Three words so bright no concealer can cover them.

Where are you the most beautiful?

On the inside.

From my heart to yours,

Daddy

 

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When Beauty Fades

When beauty fades
and your youth wastes away,
What will become
of your pretty face?

your fulsome lips
and your silken skin,
now flaccid shrouds
over a creviced grin.

When your beauty fades
and your youth wastes away,

will he still love you
……..as he did on this day
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This Is One Of Those Inspiring Stories That Will Touch The Hearts Of All South Africans

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I most often write about stories I have heard or those I am involved in – heartwarming stories that defy all ‘norms’ and quiet definitely prove that there are still individuals out there who are willing to risk their own safety for the life of another.

This amazing story is about my friend, Merrick Bluett : I am particularly grateful and blessed not only to have the opportunity of sharing his story but to know this individual who carried out such an act of heroism. To be able to call him my friend, another hero to add to the list of amazing people I am fortunate enough to know.

It happened approximately three weeks ago whilst road tripping through this beautiful country of ours, South Africa. Whilst driving on the highway between Harrismith and home, Merrick did not know he was about to change the life of another individual and his own forever.

The road is as straight as an arrow as you drive past the tiny town of Warden and yet this stretch of tar has claimed many lives, I do not know the name of the individuals’ life who was saved from becoming one of these statistics – but in this story we will refer to him as “Lucky” as this is what he was.

After driving a huge truck possibly for hours on end Lucky’s eyes slowly closed in absolute exhaustion and in that instant the truck he was driving landed up in a river quickly drowning beneath the muddy water.

Luckily for Lucky at exactly the same time, on the opposite side of the road driving in the opposite direction, Merrick noticed two large trucks on the other side of the highway, As the trucks passed each other one of them  – a  large truck carrying a container-  veered towards the concrete barrier which separated it from the rushing, treacherous water meters below. Merrick watched in horror as the truck, carrying Lucky, hit the solid barrier and flipped over into the murky waters as though it was as light as a feather being dragged by the wind.

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Merrick slammed on his brakes in anticipation of the debris and chaos that would ensue, as surely there would be further wreckage and pile-ups? instead all went still as people stopped their cars got out and along with a few pedestrians glanced over the side of the barrier. Merrick got out of his car and began running. Defying the selfish nature of most humans in society today, to watch and observe: he did what any individual with empathy and compassion would have  – he decided to save Lucky and in doing so risk his own life.

As he saw the truck slipping beneath the water, Merrick jumped over the side of the barrier and tried to make his way down a rocky, muddy and steep slope. He slid half way down but with adrenalin pumping through his veins, felt no pain or fear. This was a matter of life or death. Not his own but that of a stranger he was about to encounter. Jumping into the icy, turbulent and muddied water Merrick realised just how quickly the truck was sinking, and glancing down he knew that if he didn’t reach it in a matter of seconds he would not be able to help. Using every last nth of energy he had Merrick swam over and began to navigate his was towards the front on the truck. The low visibility of the water meant that he would have to feel his way towards Lucky. After identifying the thick metal cable which holds the front of the truck to its enormous trailer Merrick shouted out hoping against all odds that someone would respond. Lucky did. He waved his hands in the air, in shock and only able to speak in his native tongue, Lucky could barely explain that he was unable to swim or that sadly their was another passenger still trapped in the wreckage.

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In times like these one has to face a tough choice. Save the life of one individual or tempt the hands of time and fate and attempt to save what is already gone. In this instance Merrick made that choice and it turned out to be the right one. He reached Lucky and even though he was by now exhausted managed to hold him up and get them both to the dry land and safety.

Paramedics had arrived on the scene, onlookers where still doing only that: looking on and yet only one individual came halfway down the rivers banks to ask if Merrick could identify the name of the company on the truck – does this in itself not indicate a loss of humanity in the human race? What would happen to you if in dire straights you did not have a “Merrick” on the scene to save your life.

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At the end of this traumatic day. Lucky survived the accident. The other passenger was killed on impact. Merrick made the choice and saved the life of a stranger turning a tragedy into one of the most heroic stories I have heard lately.

Discussing this over a coffee with Merrick was amazing. His response to my why? how? what ifs? was simple. He wanted to help and in his own way he hoped that this would show South Africans, tarnished by prejudice and hatred that we are a rainbow nation. We are one nation made up of individuals black, white, Indian or Chinese who should and can look at each other and see no differences. How we behave towards each other has a direct impact on our own lives.. as they say ” what goes around comes around” and at the end of the day we can only hope that our actions are good, our intentions are always honourable and our hearts pure enough that we attract the same virtues in others we are surrounded by.

Merrick has since been contacted by countless investigators wanting to know what happened for insurance purposes – money is by far the root of all evil when you consider they are most likely trying to get out of paying when an individuals life was lost. But on a happy note and although he it does not mean as much to him as saving Lucky, Merrick is to receive The Order of Mendi for Bravery from the South African Government – i believe he deserves it and  trust this story will get the recognition it deserves for the purposes Merrick wishes.

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“I expect to pass through life but once.  If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again. ” ~William Penn

For My Mom – I Love You

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People say “I love you,”
But what is love?
Is it the white feathers,
On an evening dove?

Is it the way the sun shines,
Every moment so bright,
Or maybe its the way a person’s eyes sparkle,
When you whisper, “Goodnight?”

Is it the morning dew,
On the grassy hill sides,
Is it the flow of water,
In the late evening tide?

The Oxford English dictionary says,
Love is a deep affection,
What they don’t explain,
Is how to create such a strong connection?

I don’t know much about love,
But what I do,
Is that no words can describe it more than,
I feel it for you.

It may not be the sun, the water or the due,
It may just be that love is everything you do.

It is the way your face lifts,
When you grace anyone with your smile,
The way you dance around,
Reminds me of your classy style.

It is the way you care for me,
In so many ways,
And the way you do this,
Every moment, of every day

Its the way you enjoy every moment,
Than inspires me to live,
And as I do so,
To you I share all the love we can give.

Mom,
My angel from above,
Because nothing can describe it better,
Than that special word “Love”

Jojo Bayvel, Dee Bayvel