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“Little Do You Know That My Smile May Be Real But So Is My Chronic Anxiety…”

My next blog post is going to be far more heartfelt & perhaps make me a little vulnerable in this judgmental world of social media.. ( well in this judgmental world ).

Yip that’s me smiling as I usually am…

However after seeing how many people have taken their lives recently, unable to deal with modern day stress, depression and anxiety – I think it is so important to share our own stories, in the hopes that we can maybe help these people.

Stop them from trying to find peace whilst leaving behind shattered loved ones.

Make them see that there is hope, that one can “control” these “conditions” that there are so many people quietly suffering from, day in and day out.

That we should no longer see anxiety or depression as taboo – they are not.

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Mostly I will write this blog to try in my own little way to say “Hey I am here, I know how you feel, call me, write to me… I will try and help”

I guess I will write about my journey.

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I am lucky enough to only suffer with chronic anxiety.

Lucky being the operative word as it is a crippling thing.

However I am always laughing and joking, I am outgoing and friendly, and if I had depression I think those things would also be taken from me… how sad for those who suffer from both.

Those who know my family history will understand why I got anxiety at 5 years old, just a little thing terrified of death and those around her dying … these fears are more pronounced today than ever, and as with chronic anxiety they have attached themselves to other fears, yip irrational ones but fears nonetheless.

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My Faith in God gets me through my anxiety attacks and somehow I wish I could just place that extra faith in him to get me through the daily, constant anxiety (day by day… second by second… I won’t give up and neither will He).

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I think that for an anxiety sufferer to try and explain to someone without anxiety just what our thoughts are … is impossible.

So, as someone most people see as a happy girl, blessed with everything of the best in life (I am thankfully) perhaps you will understand when someone who is not happy, who is sad and scared behaves in these ways, as I do, you will think back to my smile and outgoing nature and remember anxiety and depression CAN AFFECT ANYONE…

We will:

Seem unreliable as we feel fine and agree to do something social and when the day comes we can’t. We are paralyzed with fear and instead of telling you we will ignore you… it’s less scary.

Not answer phone calls or texts … this small task can seem insurmountable when you are simply trying to breathe, control your “heart attack” and can barely get out a sentence.

Retreat further and further into ourselves … we feel like we are not good enough for most people and things as we are so sensitive that one ‘joke’ could mean we think that nobody likes us and we are unwelcome… it’s easier to not hear any criticism or jokes

There are so many more points I will add in my blog.

I have been lucky enough to conquer and deal with my anxiety well most days, and so again I write this with the sincerity of perhaps helping someone who needs to chat to someone who knows how they feel.

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So DM me please anytime, I will be up worrying about something most of the night : )

And at the same time, trying to explain to friends and family and acquaintances why someone with these “conditions” behaves as they do…. they are scared or sad and paralyzed by these things ..

Blog to follow tomorrow

All my love
Jojo

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The Thing About Getting Older Is This – Musings From Me As I ‘Grow Up’

Dear Blog – It’s been far too long, but now my writers block is gone and I look forward to seeing you again often….

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The thing about getting older is this:
You realise that life doesn’t happen as you may have planned, yet you learn to cherish each and every unplanned moment LIVE
You may be have been hurt or still be hurting yet someone out there has probably been hurt by you – FORGIVE
That in the blink of an eye everything around you can break and shatter with the death of a loved one – APPRECIATE 
You look back and see that a person you didn’t acknowledge may just have been your soulmate? You don’t get that time back – LOVE FREELY 
You can’t get caught up in society’s way of saying thank goodness my life is better than that person, without stepping in to assist ‘that person’ in anyway you can – ALWAYS HELP 
You learn that you may not be perfect but you can be the most perfect version of the you that was created – ASPIRE 
That even though we aren’t promised tomorrow you can’t lose the child within that still believes that fairytales come true– DREAM FOREVER
You and only you know your deepest fears and mistakes, it’s normal we are none blameless but because of this we shouldn’t believe or repeat the mistakes of others from hearsay – NEVER JUDGE 
You realise that there are those family and friends that just get you and love you for you – APPRECIATE 
That life is not a popularity contest but rather a short time in a place to do as much as we can with the talents and treasures we possess – GIVE

Jo-Jo Bayvel’s Aging Wisdoms

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Love Always
Jo-Jo

No Writing Just A Most Beautiful Quote

It is late and I am still working but I came across this quote and just had to share it, from my heart to yours.

That heart of a Lion still resides in each of us; each and every one of us has a beautiful, magical story to tell… When did we, as adults, become so afraid? Rising above fear is so, so hard to do and yet we do, each one of us, have this inane ability to reach inside, tell those stores and forget those fears, rise up and believe again.

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All My Love

Jo-Jo

Writing From My Heart | What Makes Beauty…. Perfect

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I guess looking at my blog these past few days I have been all about fashion and the external appearance  – don’t get me wrong I am a definite slight princess who likes to look her best most of the time, and puts the effort in to do so. (ummm well not all true as like most single girls, I get home wash my face, maybe add a facemask which makes me look like I could star in the new “IT” movie,  put that hair in a top bun -MESSY – and grab my comfiest outfit which is most often the most hideous of all my clothing .)

Anyway, I guess I felt I needed to blog about something heartfelt as I never want this blog to be all about the superficial – it’s a blog from the heart of the girl next door.

As I dive headfirst into the deep end of the last part of my 35th year I have had the most amazing realisation, slightly late and not “on trend” as I have begun to appreciate and accept my external looks for what they are  – a blessing from God. Nope I don’t think I am a supermodel, nor do I think I am beautiful and I certainly wake up looking like a troll from the 1980’s. However I was blessed with a pretty face, a good body and most importantly a gentle heart, and these are things one should never take for granted. Don’t get me wrong I will still be posting about and testing all those things I love but not to be happy, I am happy …. as me… I just have a bit of a love for fashion and beauty – but it no longer defines me.

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This epiphany as I mentioned, comes not “on trend” as more and more “solutions | surgeries | products and cosmetic surgery” have been introduced to the market in order to …. perfect oneself. I notice this just from the fact that people used to ask me all the time who ‘had done’ my lips as they are full, my retort “God” and now they are the norm if not thinner than others, they go unnoticed as lip fillers are top of the charts on every aesthetic booking list and then we go from hand fillers (yip hand fillers) to fish hook facials, to injections everywhere; ones that fill this hole and others that empty that sag bag, to facial therapies which leave you with skin like a baby and nose jobs and lip jobs and boob jobs and calf implants and and and well you can have every hair on your body removed permanently whilst having permanent make-up applied so you look like you have just stepped out of a MAC store when you open your eyes, a body is not good enough being just muscular and fit as well… in this society one can have a PERFECT body not just a great body …. let’s be honest; not only do you need to be Rockefeller or married to his offspring but you have to spend your life at a beauty salon or surgeon as most of these “treatments” do not last longer than a few months so it’s an endless cycle of looking perfect, whilst maintaining this perfectionism only to have to reperfect yourself – vicious circle? Just the thought exhausts me. Don’t get me wrong if I had nothing else to do and an endless trust fund I guess I could get used to that type of life BUT then maybe not…

Not only are the thoughts of what all these procedures may look like in twenty years, as we have yet to see the long term side effects … think cat woman xxxx 10000 or a collapsed face, but how happy can you be if you are always striving for a perfect which can always be more perfect? Why not accept your perfect … each and every person is beautiful and enough and perfect as they are and yes  a few little odd jobs done here and there for major complexes are completely understandable but stop there and accept that YOU, that beautiful perfect YOU.

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If experts spent as much time researching, developing and testing treatments to enhance and improve inner personality traits and qualities –  gratitude, love, patience, kindness, joy, faithfulness a  giving heart – and people spent as much time and money acquiring these traits and working on them as hard as they do on being that external perfect,  how much more beautiful would this world be?

Would a young chubby, shy girl still be sitting at home crying right now, as she gets no “likes” on her IG page but rather horrible comments? And then would she sob a little more as she knows that the girls at school will still make fun of her as she has not enough money for spray tans and the latest adidas sneakers, when they do not know it is because her father walked out on the family and her mom can barely pay her school fees even though she works two jobs? That can’t exactly be your IG bio right? Unfollow, Block? Who is a fan of a person with no external value??? NOT US BAE we are all about G.O.A.T.S and the “Glam Squad you can’t sit with us crowd”

See my epiphany comes because I witness this to often, and even as a semi fashionable, popular and pretty girl I have nearly fallen victim to this way of thinking to the point that going out without looking perfect would mean I would rather stay at home.

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Waking up to smell the roses (well I prefer peonies) I have realised how sadly, in my thirties this need for perfection and to be perfect at all times has filtered into my love life, right down into the depths of it.

I so often get asked why I am stilllllllllllllll single and what on earth is wrong with me that I am not married (before YOU ASK yip I’m still that little girl who wants to walk down the aisle and hold my newborn in my arms.), and whilst that is for another post where I delve into my love of narcissists and men who need a mother not a soulmate and lover – this constant craving and striving for a love that is a love of my perfection externally and not internally is what I miss out on in all relationships… not all – to you guys I have dated who are reading this and loved me for me you were awesome! I just didn’t chose you as I hadn’t chosen me.

It boils down to hearing these words daily, and I am a person who needs word of affirmation so I believed hearing;

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I love you in that dress

I love that colour on you

I love that everyone thinks you are pretty, it makes me sooo proud

I love the smell of your perfume

I love your body

Yip they loved LOADS of things about me, but they just didn’t love ME. Don’t get me wrong , we all love a compliment and sometimes from the right person when they go starry eyed I get “weakly” kneed, but my words of choice of affirmation would sound more like;

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I love they way your heart aches when you see a sad person, child or animal

I love that you want to rescue the world

I love that you care so little what others think of you

I love that you are clumsy and ditzy but can laugh at yourself

I love your smile as you being happy makes me happy

I love the way you try and make my house a home so I feel less like a visitor in it

I love your passion for your family

I love how little kids are drawn to you

The simple things but the things that would make my heart so very happy and perhaps have me in a veil in no time.

I am ending this rambling off with saying I am a music person, I simply adore music, it invokes memories both happy and sad, it creates a happy atmosphere, it can make a sad moment that much more poignant and a happy moment a euphoric one.

I found this song (well I think the whole world has found it as Ed, yip that Ed… Ed Sheeran sings it) and the lyrics make me smile and cry and laugh, feel and think… an excerpt before I post the whole thing;

Baby, I’m dancing in the dark with you between my arms
Barefoot on the grass, listening to our favorite song
When you said you looked a mess, I whispered underneath my breath
But you heard it, darling, you look perfect tonight

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The girl I was my whole life, would have defined this as the ultimate romantic moment, the girl I could have become who I think shares the same fears as so many other girls of all ages these days, would be thinking ” Oh no what about my favourite sandals being ruined by the wet ground? My dress is so long are the muddy stains going to come off?  I do look such a mess? Does he really think so.. my hair is curly from the rain, my mascara is smudged, when can I get away to ‘fix’ myself so I look like the girl he deserves | wants?…

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I mean WHAT???? This would be the ultimate moment. Dancing with the love of my life, barefoot in the dark, just us two. Laughing, loving and believe me as I have realized looking more perfect and beautiful than ever because  I would be happy, my eyes would shine, my smile would be huge and no flaw would go noticed because this man would see those two things and think …. SHE IS PERFECT…

Here is the full song and lyrics below:

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“Perfect”

I found a love for me
Darling, just dive right in and follow my lead
Well, I found a girl, beautiful and sweet
Oh, I never knew you were the someone waiting for me’Cause we were just kids when we fell in love
Not knowing what it was
I will not give you up this time
But darling, just kiss me slow
Your heart is all I own
And in your eyes you’re holding mine

Baby, I’m dancing in the dark
With you between my arms
Barefoot on the grass
Listening to our favourite song
When you said you looked a mess
I whispered underneath my breath
But you heard it,
Darling, you look perfect tonight

Well, I found a woman, stronger than anyone I know
She shares my dreams, I hope that someday I’ll share her home
I found a love to carry more than just my secrets
To carry love, to carry children of our own

We are still kids but we’re so in love
Fighting against all odds
I know we’ll be alright this time
Darling, just hold my hand
Be my girl, I’ll be your man
I see my future in your eyes

Baby, I’m dancing in the dark
With you between my arms
Barefoot on the grass
Listening to our favourite song
When I saw you in that dress
Looking so beautiful
I don’t deserve this
Darling, you look perfect tonight

Baby, I’m dancing in the dark
With you between my arms
Barefoot on the grass
Listening to our favourite song
I have faith in what I see
Now I know I have met an angel in person
And she looks perfect
I don’t deserve this
You look perfect tonight

Until next time…

Lots of Love

Jo-Jo


 

Lashes I Love | From The Lash & Beauty Room In Wynberg

Emma Lash Room

( Coming From The Girl Who Needed No Extra Help In This Depo But May NOW Just Find Them A Necessity )

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Being a natural blonde, yip natural if somewhat a rather drab mousy colour which needs a whole lot of help getting it to be a ‘nice’ colour, I have always struggled with my lashes – and that panda look when wearing no mascara. I do have really long and thick natural lashes but as they are blonde they seem to fade into nothing……

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Tinting has helped as well as using a product called GrandeLash MD which makes them appear darker however the tint fades so quickly and the GrandeLash works so well that with these natural lashes of mine, I tend to need to trim them after a week or so. Yip all beauticians are surprised when they realise they do actually need a trim …  perhaps that extra cm of height I needed for my 5″3 frame landed up attached to my eyelid!

And so having to go to London for two weeks and not wanting to hassle with tinting (EXPENSIVE in POUNDS) or mascara and smudging I decided to try out false eyelashes.

Terrifying, as the “ONLY” thing I have that is fake are hair extensions and I used to think that lash extensions were akin to botox – dreadful and could only cause damage, like that os pulling my own natural lashes out.

Until I found Emma Brink, owner of The Lash and Beauty Room in Wynberg, Cape Town.

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WOW she is amazing And being the terrified Tim I am I will not and really don’t need to go anywhere else in Cape Town when I want to get these done again.

Not only is Emma brilliant but she is absolutely divine and so fun to be around which makes these daunting experiences just that much easier, in fact I fell fast asleep.

On arriving at the salon Emma noted my lashes were long and thick as it is, and being the true artist she is, told me we would go for the natural look and half a set of extensions – not having me leaving looking like I should star in Priscilla Queen of the Desert  (YAY Emma) someone who believes that less is more is always a friend.

BEFORE:

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Emma got to work and within less than an hour I left feeling like my eyes simply popped! No mascara, eyeliner, eyeshadow just these gorgeous new lashes.

AFTER:

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From someone who wears make-up due to a little scarring on my skin these extensions actually let me wear so much less makeup as my eyes stood out and all else faded… what a pleasure on holiday, for work or for well any reason really! Waking up looking like you have just sat in a make-up artist’s chair is a pretty amazing feeling for any girl.

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The best part? These lashes lasted over two weeks and simply came out naturally without me having to pull out prod or  even visit a salon, and I am left with my own naturally thick and long lashes – no damage.

The one thing I can say is that I may have now found a new “must-have” I am not enjoying the panda look, smudged mascara or having to try and enhance my eyes EVERY SINGLE DAY.. Emma I shall see you soon.

Ps Have a peep at Emma’s microblading … WOW.

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And did I mention she makes bespoke clothing too? The lady is a genius.


Follow on Facebook @ The Lash & Beauty Room 

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Visit the website and MAKE YOUR appointment www.thelashandbeautyroom.com

Follow Emma and view her clothing @ www.instagram.com/emilybrinkly/

Lots of Love

Jo-Jo


My Work | Services Offered As A Digital Marketing Consultant| An Old One WIth Over 16 Years Experience :)

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Today’s digital landscape is more competitive than ever, requiring marketing leaders to execute online strategies that attract, convert, and retain more customers. Combining analytics with goal-driven methodology, I will help you benchmark your current initiatives, establish clear and realistic objectives, and create a roadmap for your success.

As your digital marketing consultant who understands the “customer journey,” I offer strategy, implementation, optimization, and training across your multi-channel marketing activity to increase visibility, traffic, and conversion — maximizing your digital marketing return on investment.

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Explore how my digital marketing services and expertise can help you EVOLVE your organization contact me at jojobayvel@me.com

Consulting services include:

Content Marketing

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Your online content impacts the way your prospects and customers find, think, and feel about your brand.  Creative, innovative content combined with Search Engine Optimization and Social Media best practices is a killer combination that makes your business easy to find and attracts, then engages your target audience.

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Smart companies seeking that elusive competitive advantage online see the greatest successes with a strategy that employs optimization best practices. SEO takes into consideration search engines, social network and online news media preferences while catering to your customers’ needs. Increase your online visibility and put your brand in front of the right audience, on the right channel, at the right point in their purchasing journey with my SEO services.

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Understanding your audience is key to your brand’s success in social media.  The B2B and B2C buying journey, from discovery to conversion, may extend over weeks or months of information gathering, consumption and for the good stuff, sharing. Put my pioneering combination of traditional marketing, search marketing and social media to work for your brand.

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If you’re looking to add email marketing to part of your integrated online marketing program,  I have honed the email marketing process to create a results-driven approach to messaging, Call To Action (CTA), lead capture and conversion metrics.

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My unique approach to influencer marketing can help you reach your target audience by building relationships with influencers who already have industry authority and credibility.

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Online advertising allows brands to reach out beyond their existing networks, to tap into new, highly targeted audiences via search, social or display ads. I ensure companies get the best ROI in social advertising through strategic planning, top quality ad creative, and ongoing campaign measurement and optimization.

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Understanding the path from discovery to conversion of your customers is key in determining what changes you can make to convert more customers.  My data-driven approach will determine which metrics are most important and what actions we can take to help you convert more customers.


 

A Plea For Help For An Angel Child & Her Carer 

Call for help from all those kind hearted people I know 💞 …

I met Refilwe nearly 4 yrs ago.

She was born with birth asphyxia, is blind & deaf. Yet, what captured my heart ❤️ is that a touch made this little cherub erupt with laughter, causing tears to flow freely down my cheeks.

I am not setting up a gofundme page as the help she needs is not only related to monetary assistance, instead she needs to continue with the physiotherapy we began to ensure she retains movement of her little limbs and does not become stiff & paralyzed. And so anyone who would be willing to volunteer their time & heart please let me know.

Refilwe is looked after by a special angel, Lucky. And lucky she is, to have this lady in her life. Lucky needs formula, clothing and diapers for refilwe & any toys or items which would benefit her coordination.

Lucky has a crèche in Malaatjie squatter camp near Lanseria & cares for children with mainly special needs…. please help me to continue to provide as much life as we can give to Refikwe & to help Lucky as she helps others even though she does not have the means to do so…. jojobayvel@me.com