Our Precious Nana & Mumsy – Memorial Speech 7th July 2010

Nana, your three beautiful daughters, Carol Ann, Denise and Sandra have asked us to speak on their behalf. Like you they are kind, compassionate and tender hearted and would not have been able to express their feelings or talk at this memorial without us having brought the entire Kleenex and Waterproof Mascara factories. We are not sure how well we are going to do or how we will get through this but as a close knit family we have always helped each other. For them losing their mumsy might just be the biggest heartbreak of their lives and so we, your five granddaughters will celebrate your life with this speech. Written with the input of each of your daughters and granddaughters, both here in body and those here in heart and soul.

Nana and Mumsy,

We little knew this morning,

That God would call your name.

In Life we loved you dearly;

In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you,

The day God called you Home.

You left us peaceful memories,

Your Love is still our guide.

And though we cannot see you,

You are always at our side.

Our family chain is broken,

And nothing seems the same.

But as God calls us one by one,

The chain will link again.

You left us on Monday and even though we knew it would come one day. The pain and sadness is endless. Yet we take comfort in knowing that you are now in the gentle hands of your beloveds caress, Cecil, our Father and Grandfather. To think that you remained faithful for 28 years after his passing, is to know true love and commitment and is a testimony to the values, morals and principles you lived by. Our Dad and Gramps used to say, “If you do not have anything nice to say, than don’t say anything at all”. Nana, you lived by this. Never an awful word about anyone passed those gentle lips, never a trusted secret shared, never a bad bone in that strong, yet in the end, fragile and tiny body.

We will always remember your little chuckle and naughty jokes that would make even your granddaughter’s blush, that smile that would light up an entire room, even when your teeth were hanging halfway out your mouth or the fact that you had your “own” Doctor who prescribed your medicine, your “Koeldrank” ; Cane and Coke. Nana, he must have been a train driver because only a train driver would get you on the “Cane Train” every night. You lived for nearly 88 years, your birthday would have been next month and we have to fit that entire lifetime into one speech – and according to Chris, a concise one!

Our Mumsy and Nana, you accomplished so much in your life. Head Girl of Queenstown, Hockey player for Stellenbosch, a qualified Medical Researcher, brilliant golfer and Captain of Ladies Golf for years.

And now, to try and fit those memories onto a few pieces of paper and a short memoir of your life – We filled an entire day on Monday with just your time in Bethe, the one horse town and a split second of your life. So it goes we cannot fit 87 years into one speech; we just remember a few stories and celebrate your life. We remember how your daughter, Denise, lost  you in a flat panic in Cresta shopping centre for four hours but Nana  was enjoying a cup of coffee at Mugg & Bean. We remember how the second, and only time you ever drove, was when you and gramps were a little sozzled after a game of golf; you proceeded to crash into the gate and in the morning make Gramps believe he had driven home and done the damage. They say genes skip a generation, Nana, clearly your driving skills were passed onto your granddaughters! Sadly one thing we cannot forget is how you walked because we all have The Duck Waddle; ankles in, toes out! We remember how you loved The Hotel, Little Switzerland, and the place that we will finally lay you to rest. You loved it there and will have peace and happiness in the fresh air under a star filled sky. In fact Nana, you will be the biggest, brightest star and we will always know to look up to the Heaven’s and see you shining down on us!       

Our Nana and Mumsy, we will never forget you; we can’t! You were an integral part of our lives, a blessing and you will forever be etched in our minds, as the gracious incredible Lady you were and are.

Maria, thank you for becoming her best friend, thank you for taking care of her. We could not have asked God to send us an angel more patient, caring and loving then you. You are a blessing and for this you will be blessed. You have lost your best friend and soul mate and our hearts break for you. But you are now a part of our History and Family. We will always look after you and keep you as a piece of our lives  – who knows, you might be serving some of us Koeldrank on Zimmer frames shortly.

And now Nana and Mumsy, we say goodbye. To our treasured person, our laughter, our memories and our Earthly visits. But we do not say Goodbye forever. You remain in each of our hearts, etched in our minds and the greatest Guardian Angel we could ever dream or hope for. Until we meet again; go gently, go peacefully – you are finally Home.

Please bow your heads as we bid our final farewell to this extra-ordinary woman, wife, mother, Nana and friend.

Father God we come to you now in your precious and Holy name,

We ask that you bless those of us left behind, that we have peace that passes all Earthly understanding and know that our beloved is not gone forever but is with you and is healthy, young and happy again.

Lord God, we thank you that the words we are about to say ring true for our Nana and Mumsy.

Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wind of heaven’s love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again

Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this mem’ry bittersweet
Until we meet

Fly, fly do not fear
Don’t waste a breath, don’t shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don’t wait for us
Above the universe you’ll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But we won’t forget

Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light

May God be with us all forever and ever

Amen

Nana… I Love You

Its a selfish love to hold onto to someone who needs to go.
Its sad for us who are left behind to mourn you, to lose you and not to see you. Nana, I know I wasn’t always that granddaughter who visited you every week, who took you to lunch or brought you a simple bunch of flowers and told you how much I loved your laugh, your sense of humour and your love for us. You always missed us and I took it for granted that there would be another day, another week and even another year to spend the time with you that I should have could have and wanted too but didn’t.. I got caught up in my own life, my own wants and needs and a selfishness I regret with every passing minute, second an heartbeat.. Seeing you today broke my heart my Nana so fragile, your skin tinged blue, your breathe a shallow whisper but every know and then you still smile or giggle or give that moan we always laugh about. I am glad you are peaceful and comfortable without pain or sadness you are ready and we need to understand and let you go. I wish you could be here to see your great granchildren ( hearing that I can picture you chuckle and say ” okay my dear”) or see you dressed like the trendy and classy lady you are instead you tell us know that its only us visiting not the queen of England – what a blessing you have been without me realising it. My heart weeps for my mom who is losing her mom, I know she will miss you desperately and maria who has been your angel will have lost a soulmate she adores you- don’t worry we will look after her always. I’m sure Gramps is getting things ready for you and that you are going to have a welcome in Heaven fit for the queen you are – you have waited for each other for 27 years, my lifetime, and finally you will be together again forever again. Nana I will miss you with my entire heart I love you and will be devastated when you are no longer here all I can say now is Goodbye and say hi to grampa tell God and Jesus we love them and walk amongst the flowers, streets of gold and angels. Walk with a spring in your step and look after us always – be our Guardian angel guide us and love us. Forever your granchild forever in love and forever I will miss you until we meet again. Go gently, go peacefully, go home if you are ready. Our selfish tears will be wiped away in time knowing you are smiling at us from above.