The Dysmorphobic xyz Generation


Noun /

An obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.

The flaw may be minor or imagined. But the person may spend hours a day trying to fix it. The person may try many cosmetic procedures or exercise to excess.

Another one to perhaps blame on social media or the fact that you can photoshop, or in ’real life’ have any ’flaw’ fixed. ANY. You can now wake up no make up and look amazing, yawn & act like that’s just you… Naturally.

As this tiny one said at the beginning of 2020 – it’s my natural year. Little chuckle as this just means no more photoshop – I can’t afford any treatments and quite honestly am pretty scared of them!

Knowing my quirky blonde luck – I would land up with one eyebrow in my hairline and the other under my last eye. Yup lazy eye – a flaw – call 911 who can live with that. Well, me.

This post started with me looking at this pic and questioning every aspect of my face. I mean, I know I don’t fall under the average looking meridian but people said wow exquisite???

My reaction? Would I upload as is? Unfiltered, no facetune.. The horror! I see droopy eyes, a skew nose, pixie ears, imperfect skin and so much more just a tweak could fix.

But, I promised to embrace me this year. Flaws and all.

And you know what? I’m happier. No pressure. No hunts for likes. Just embracing this 37 year old growing OLD, naturally. And my confidence us growing in leaps and bounds. Shout out to the flaws we should embrace, clearly.

And just a shoutout to those who think a girl thinks she us an 11 out of 10. Unless you get to date J Lo most of us feel like a 7 on good days.

So when you see a girl with even one beautiful feature, tell her. You may give her a day feeling like an 8!

Ps. Picture posted naturally.

Love always and a day


Happiness is for …. Now

So many of us live our lives always expecting for something to happen, tricking ourselves into thinking and believing that tomorrow will be better than today, that the next moment will be more precious and more valuable that this moment, constantly dreaming and hoping for something else, for something better, not realizing that: “Life is what happens to you, while you’re busy making other plans.” John Lennon

If we could only start seeing this as being true and if we could only allow ourselves to be fully present in everything we do without the need to chase for something else, without the need to chase after something that will happen in the future, something that is not yet there we would be happy.

When your mind is fully present and engaged in whatever you are doing each second of the day, you are content and you are at peaceful, for life is now, and life will always be now, not tomorrow, not yesterday, not in 1 year, 10 years, 50 years, but now!

The beautiful and inspiring words that you will read bellow will help you remember who you are and what life is all about whenever your mind will try to convince you that where you are is not good enough, what you have is not good enough, who you are is not good enough. If you could remember these powerful words that hopefully will be engraved in your heart after reading them, you will be able to tame your mind and chances are that in time, you will be able to get to a point where you can appreciate the present moment fully, while still moving confidently in the direction of your dreams.

“There is no way to happiness.

Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have.
And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special.

And remember that time waits for no one.
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school,
Until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds,
Until you have kids, until your kids leave the house,
Until you start work, Until you retire,
Until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night,
Until Saturday morning, until you get a new car or home,
Until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer ,
Until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth,

Until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink,
Until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again,
To decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy
Happiness is a journey, not a destination

Work like you don’t need the money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.” Author Unknown


Today’s Recipe For Happiness

4 glasses of LOVE
2 glasses of PATIENCE
3 glasses of KINDNESS
4 glasses of UNDERSTANDING
1 glass of FAITH
5 spoons of HAPPINESS
5 spoons of TENDERNESS
1 litre of HUMOUR

  •       Take love and patience, mix with faith. Separately combine tenderness, kindness and understanding.

  •       Combine everything and mix with friendliness and happiness.
  •       Sprinkle abundantly with humour.
  •       Bake in sun rays.
  •       Serve every day with generosity of your soul
  •       Garnish with a smile and serve with quietness, unselfishness and cheerfulness.

“Mom, I found a Troll” the funniest true story so sweet – I have heard EVER – read and laugh

So a friend of my’s sons friends mom’s son etal…. is 38 and has Down Syndrome.

A few weeks ago he came to his mom and exclaimed her in the most excited manner that he “had found a troll!!!”

Mom watching television and used to tales, took the “troll” story not so seriously and carried on watching her fave TV shows.

A few moments later the son walks in and again says ” Mom I found a troll what must I feed him?”

Now exasperated and tired of this mom replies “Cookies and Milk”…thank goodness she did.

Upon waking the next morning Mom decided the she best go check things out and to her dismay and surprise…. There duct taped and stuck in the cupboard was “The Troll” a Hurri Christiana dwarf who had been delivering his story and instead now has his own story to tell… Oh the joys of children for there Mothers lol… this is one for the record books.

Trolls leave this house alone lol

Dont feed the Troll

Another Amazing Sister… She has everything and more and I adore her

Bronni is one of the most talented and intelligent individuals I have the delight in calling my older sister. Not only is she gorgeous, stylish, academically brilliant, creative, artistic, a brilliant chef, home-maker and Mom to Chloe the abandoned Kitty she is the most selfless, caring, kind, gentle and loving child on this planet…. anyone who knows her would agree.. she has a heart of gold has been a second mom to me an inspiration and a shoulder to lean on at all times. I adore you my “big” sis

Before the start of thirty3degrees….

Speaker at : Wharton Global Alumni Forum

Bronwyn Bayvel

Director Corporate Finance
Dubai World Africa Services (Pty) Ltd
Cape Town

B.Com (Economics)

Bronwyn received a Bachelor of Commerce degree at the University of the Witwatersrand (WITS) in Johannesburg, majoring in Economics. She started her banking career at a CorpCapital Bank on the Corporate Funding desk, and has since gained over 8 years’ experience in the banking industry in South Africa. She worked for a top South African property developer, Zenprop Property Holdings, for 3 years where she managed the group’s financial due diligence, capital raising and tax structuring.

Before joining Dubai World Africa in January this year and relocating to Cape Town, she spent 6 years at at Investec Bank Limited where she headed up the team responsible for the advising, underwriting and arranging of the debt required for the acquisition by Dubai World and London & Regional of the V&A Waterfront in Cape Town.

In addition to the V&A Waterfront, Bronwyn has been involved in a number of prominent South African real estate transactions, either acting on behalf of the developer in assessing project viability, or as banker in the raising of debt required for the transaction. These include, amongst others:

  1. Acquisition by the Australian based Stella Group of the Protea Hotel Group;
  2. The ground breaking development of the Maponya Mall in Soweto;
  3. Management buyout of Lanseria International Airport;
  4. Funding, feasibility analysis and development of the One & Only Hotel in Cape Town;
  5. Funding of niche retail centres: Design Quarter, Atholl Square and Vangate Mall.

She is passionate about real estate and Africa, and joined Dubai World as Corporate Finance Director to assist in their expansion into Africa and the realization of their vision which is: “to significantly impact on the growth and development of the African continent by partnering key stakeholders in identified African countries who share the dream of building a sustainable economy for Africa and creating thousands of jobs for Africans whilst adding significant value to our investment portfolio”.

And then… The biggest property deal in Southern Africa as a Director of Thirty3Degrees…

Thirty3degrees is a dynamic young company focused on assisting listed and privately held corporates, institutions and entrepreneurs with complex business and financial processes – including financial, commercial and legal advisory and transaction execution services. We build lasting relationships with our clients, giving them practical assistance wherever possible, whilst offering them sound financial and business advice. The objective of providing our clients with a one-stop advisory and execution service differentiates thirty3degrees from traditional advisory firms.
Our client offering includes comprehensive Financial and Business Advisory and Capital Raising Services.

Financial and Business Advisory Services
1. Mergers and acquisitions;
2. Asset Management;
3. Due-diligence and Valuation;
4. Corporate Restructuring
5. Black Economic Empowerment – BEE
Capital Raising Services
1. Origination of both debt and equity;
2. Structuring;
3. Execution;
4. Documentation;
5. Syndication.

Represented majority shareholders in the V&A Waterfront in respect of the sale of their interest in the V&A Waterfront.
Transaction Value: R9.717bn
thirty3degrees Financial Services (Proprietary) Limited
(Registration No.2009/014281/07)

Physical Address
Suite 302, 3rd Floor, The Equinox, 154 Main Road, Seapoint, Cape Town

Postal Address
PO Box 50784, Waterfront, 8002

Tel +2721 430 6160
Fax +2721 433 0555

Bronwyn Bayvel
Direct: +27 (0) 21 430 6162
Mobile: +27 (0) 82 565 6968
Jeanne-Marié Mouton
Direct: +27 (0) 21 430 6163
Mobile: +27 (0) 82 564 7750
Andrew Payne
Direct: +27 (0) 21 430 6161
Mobile: +27 (0) 83 417 6181

Sports loving girlies Bron and I

Proudest Moment for a family my sis THE Director and Genius

Bronni and her man Bruce

”]Bronnis "adopted" child Maks ... she looks after all his financial and emotional needs

All the stress and worth it

Beauty and Brains on the left 🙂

me and bronni = no common sense