Love – A Beautiful Mess

Love isn’t always perfect and about romance (I wish it was) but sometimes it’s just a plain but beautiful mess.

We all come from different backgrounds. Some of us grew up in a loving and encouraging family, and some of us didn’t. We’ve probably all had some kind of relationship in our lives that has left us feeling hurt. You can’t control your outside circumstances. I wish we could. What you can control is your own choices. It can be hard to love when you feel broken. If you don’t come to any relationship (romantic, friendship, family) whole, you end up (1) asking others to fill in the broken pieces or (2) shutting them out completely. You first have to love yourself. Then, you can offer relationships your strengths rather than looking to them to fix your weaknesses. We all have the power to make this decision no matter what hand life has dealt us.

We all receive and give love in so many different ways to so many different people in our lives. And I think we can all agree we all need love in return. It’s absolutely necessary to having a happy life. At nearly 39 I do have love on the brain these days, but will I simply settle as the clock ticks over. Never. Love might not be easy, but I still want that soul wrenching beautiful mess.

Be someone you would love.

It is always easier to blame others. Always. What’s hard is looking to yourself and realizing that maybe it’s you who needs to change. Before you have amazing relationships you have to be someone you would love. Be the mother you would want. Be the girlfriend you would fall in love with. This is a lifelong process the important people in your life will help you with if you are open to it. Stop focusing on others’ shortcomings so much and instead work on yourself. Me = stubborn 😁

Don’t hold back. Don’t hold grudges. Go all in. We’ve probably all been hurt before, and I’m not saying we should ignore those situations. But. Don’t let past hurts prevent you from making new relationships or falling in love. This almost happened to me. I was hurt and felt justified in my unwillingness to forgive even though my circumstances had changed. Don’t be afraid to love deeply. It can be scary to depend on anyone. Be open. Be brave. But never ignore the red flags : ).

Choose your important relationships.

I truly believe that we should love everyone. An attitude of love to your fellow citizens is a great way to live your life. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone did this? However, this does not mean that you should open yourself up to being hurt over and over again. Choose the people who you cultivate important relationships with. If someone has continually been a negative influence in your life, or doesn’t treat you the way you deserve, then they should not receive the privilege of being one of your close relationships. Focus on the positive influences in your life. Love them deeply.

Love always,

Every important relationship in your life requires attention in order for it to grow. I am so guilty of being that friend who doesn’t call back. It is SO easy to get busy with your life, with work or school or whatever you are passionate about and not focus on cultivating the love in your life. I should get dinner with my mom more often. I should get coffee with my sisters more (work meetings don’t count!). If you neglect any relationship it will decline over time. I’ve had many friends over the years that I’ve sort of drifted apart from simply because I didn’t make time for them. Being a giving and loving person takes a lot of intential effort. And that’s something that I’m working on this year.

Love always,

JoJo

Oh I Know There Going To Be Better Days … A Prayer For 2021

‘Oh I know there are going to be better days. ‘

A magic switch isn’t going to suddenly reset this chaotic world tonight at 12pm.

So no New Years Resolutions from me, just a fond farewell to a painful 2020 – the saddest year ever for myself and so many, BUT with a sign of silver lining appearing lately.

So instead of wishing you all the best for 2021.

All I do is pray for your health.
That you are loved completely.
That you appreciate all you have and give where you can.
That you get to spend more time with loved ones.
That this crazy pandemic ends and we return to some kind of normality.
That you learn to be gentle and patient and slow to anger.
I pray that you will be able to hug and kiss those you treasure before the end of 2021.

Have a wonderful NYE

Love Always JoJo

PLEASE PLEASE Carry On Voting

Wow you guys rock I can still win!

Today my mom/slave said that

If YOU vote for Me ONCE it equals 4 VOTES

I think she may be right even though her maths is really bad.

U can vote by clicking on this link https://fluffykids.co.za/entry/20070704

This link is also in my moms last blog so go to her website if you want 🥰 it’s in her instadog bio

happy friyay

licks of love

Dozer

No Matter What You Do You Can’t Make Them All Like You – And That’s Okay

Have you ever been around someone that doesn’t like you, and you don’t know why?

Like you can just tell when you are around them that they treat you differently, or they are blatantly rude to you but no one else?

That’s always fun.

I‘ve spent my life trying to make sure I could mold into whatever personality I needed to in order to get everyone to like me.

Honestly? I’ve been quite successful.

I’m good at reading a person and turning into what they would like me to be.

But my gosh, this is a terrible and super confusing way to live.

Because eventually you get to a place where you wonder, who the heck am I?! Your personality has been so shifty and inconsistent that you don’t even know what’s genuinely you.

People who are able to be themselves 100% of the time (whether or not it rubs other people wrong) make me both very uncomfortable and envious.

How do you not care that they are looking at you like that??

Can’t you see their reaction??

Are you intentionally trying to stir up an argument?

And really what I’m thinking… How do you not care that they don’t like you?!

As I’ve gotten older I recognized that although I don’t think we should ever intentionally step on people‘s toes for fin and we should always take people‘s feelings into consideration…

Life is better when we can just be us and accept that not everyone is going to like us.

Because even though I’ve always changed myself for others, even still, some people didn’t like me.

Truly showing me that no matter what I do, I can’t ensure everyone will like me.

So, I might as well be me.

The real me, the one God made me to be.

I know there aren’t many worse feelings in the world than someone choosing not to like you.

But friend, that’s their choice.

That’s something they will have to carry around with them.

Wish them well, and move on.

You can’t get them all to like you, and that’s okay.

It’s not your job to.

~Kelli Bachara, The Unraveling Blog

Dozer Needs Your Vote – A Big Dog In A Little Body

Hi Guys,

PLEASE vote for me & share & let me know I can save you a high 5 with a “done” below”

https://fluffykids.co.za/entry/20070704/

I am Dozer, BullDozer, Big Boy, Poser.
Yip I have a lot of names my slaves call me!


I’m not so sure if they are teasing with the ‘Big Boy’ I mean I am a lapdog about the same size as a chiuhuahua 🤔


I looove chewing my moms best things not to annoy her she just buys me funny rubber things & her stuff is much crunchier & delicious.


I also just love rides in the car! I don’t understand though why people come to the window & are scared of my mom? I just want to give them licks of love!

I have to hug mom when she is driving. I just adore her.


Everywhere I go I love everything & everyone & they love me back. It’s just so awesome.

I know I’m pretty handsome for such a tiny dude so please vote for me here ps I’ll give you a high 5 I give those for eeevveerything

https://fluffykids.co.za/entry/20070704/

I don’t want to get kicked out on the first round 😳👀👀👀.

Love
All my names together &
Dozer