I know I should write more about my career, the products I use etc etc… but, my blog is not about that.
Perhaps it is a release from the everyday mundane world of work and beauty and striving to be ones best.
I like to think of it as a place where people in all walks of life can relate. Life is sometimes amazing and sometimes downright dismal.
I am blessed to have what some may call the “happy gene” but I must say Covid and this past years experiences have put a slight damper on a number of days for me; and I know for so many.
So… getting to the point. I love sharing anything I come across which touches my heart and soul or perhaps just my taste.
This is me sharing music. A passion. A love story. Music is just that rare and beautiful medium that conjures up every memory, feeling, mood and experience we have gone through and are yet too.
It is also a beautiful piece and so apt for the times we live in right now. it’s the most beautiful cover of a Finneas song about a lady who loses her husband to Covid. It is sad and tragic but absolutely magical and a memory for her and all who have lost someone, to savor for all time.
Love isn’t always perfect and about romance (I wish it was) but sometimes it’s just a plain but beautiful mess.
We all come from different backgrounds. Some of us grew up in a loving and encouraging family, and some of us didn’t. We’ve probably all had some kind of relationship in our lives that has left us feeling hurt. You can’t control your outside circumstances. I wish we could. What you can control is your own choices. It can be hard to love when you feel broken. If you don’t come to any relationship (romantic, friendship, family) whole, you end up (1) asking others to fill in the broken pieces or (2) shutting them out completely. You first have to love yourself. Then, you can offer relationships your strengths rather than looking to them to fix your weaknesses. We all have the power to make this decision no matter what hand life has dealt us.
We all receive and give love in so many different ways to so many different people in our lives. And I think we can all agree we all need love in return. It’s absolutely necessary to having a happy life. At nearly 39 I do have love on the brain these days, but will I simply settle as the clock ticks over. Never. Love might not be easy, but I still want that soul wrenching beautiful mess.
Be someone you would love.
It is always easier to blame others. Always. What’s hard is looking to yourself and realizing that maybe it’s you who needs to change. Before you have amazing relationships you have to be someone you would love. Be the mother you would want. Be the girlfriend you would fall in love with. This is a lifelong process the important people in your life will help you with if you are open to it. Stop focusing on others’ shortcomings so much and instead work on yourself. Me = stubborn 😁
Don’t hold back. Don’t hold grudges. Go all in. We’ve probably all been hurt before, and I’m not saying we should ignore those situations. But. Don’t let past hurts prevent you from making new relationships or falling in love. This almost happened to me. I was hurt and felt justified in my unwillingness to forgive even though my circumstances had changed. Don’t be afraid to love deeply. It can be scary to depend on anyone. Be open. Be brave. But never ignore the red flags : ).
Choose your important relationships.
I truly believe that we should love everyone. An attitude of love to your fellow citizens is a great way to live your life. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone did this? However, this does not mean that you should open yourself up to being hurt over and over again. Choose the people who you cultivate important relationships with. If someone has continually been a negative influence in your life, or doesn’t treat you the way you deserve, then they should not receive the privilege of being one of your close relationships. Focus on the positive influences in your life. Love them deeply.
Every important relationship in your life requires attention in order for it to grow. I am so guilty of being that friend who doesn’t call back. It is SO easy to get busy with your life, with work or school or whatever you are passionate about and not focus on cultivating the love in your life. I should get dinner with my mom more often. I should get coffee with my sisters more (work meetings don’t count!). If you neglect any relationship it will decline over time. I’ve had many friends over the years that I’ve sort of drifted apart from simply because I didn’t make time for them. Being a giving and loving person takes a lot of intential effort. And that’s something that I’m working on this year.
A magic switch isn’t going to suddenly reset this chaotic world tonight at 12pm.
So no New Years Resolutions from me, just a fond farewell to a painful 2020 – the saddest year ever for myself and so many, BUT with a sign of silver lining appearing lately.
So instead of wishing you all the best for 2021.
All I do is pray for your health. That you are loved completely. That you appreciate all you have and give where you can. That you get to spend more time with loved ones. That this crazy pandemic ends and we return to some kind of normality. That you learn to be gentle and patient and slow to anger. I pray that you will be able to hug and kiss those you treasure before the end of 2021.
Hunter Emms is a precious 5 year old with an Optical Nerve Glioma. It is inoperable and will need chemo and/or radiation treatment to counter it’s growth his whole life. It already affects his eyesight, balance and co ordination and despite being benign is life threatening if not treated. He was originally diagnosed at 18 months and undergone chemo for a season.
Most recently Hunter’s tumor has grown significantly despite the MEK inhibitors and he is facing another year of chemo and then radiation.
We are wanting to raise support for his family (Barry, Shirley and Finn) to cover the medical costs that their medical aid oncology benefit doesn’t cover as well as the specialists needed for his care (Physios, ophthalmologists, Chiropractors, a pediatric neurosurgeon, pain and nausea meds, therapists and dietary requirements.)
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