25 tricks to look better in pictures

This time of year can be a minefield of potentially awkward family photos, unflattering party pics and more snaps that just want to make you hit “untag.” Even if you love the way you look in person, it takes practice to make sure your in-the-flesh beauty translates on camera. The good news? Being photogenic is a skill you can totally master. Here are a few of our favorite tips that will help you bring out your inner Gisele.

1. If you tend to blink in photos, close your eyes just before the picture is taken and open them slowly before the camera clicks. No more half-closed eyes!

2. To avoid a double chin, elongate your neck and push your face forward a bit. Think of sticking out your forehead and tipping your chin slightly down. It might feel awkward, but it will look great — promise.

3. Make sure your makeup is a perfect match, says mark Celebrity Makeup Artist Fiona Stiles, who’s prepped everyone from Halle Berry to Jessica Chastain and Elizabeth Banks for the red carpet. “When a foundation is too pale for your skin tone, it becomes very obvious when a flash hits the skin.” She advises, “Match your skin to your chest and add a thin layer to your neck if your neck is paler (as is the case for most people).”

4. Curled lashes and mascara are musts, Stiles insists (she swears by mark Scanda-Lash Mascara). “Both open up your eyes, and the eyes are the focal point of a picture. You want to draw people into a picture, so you want to maximize the impact of the eyes. They more open they are, the more the light hits them and that’s what makes them twinkle!”

5. Take a look at your favorite pictures of yourself and try to spot a pattern. Do you like the way you look from a certain angle? When you smile a specific way? Try to replicate your best poses next time you have your photo taken.

6. Try this old school red carpet trick: Put your tongue behind your teeth when you smile to avoid a goofy, too-wide grin.

7. Fill in your brows. Not only do your eyebrows convey character and emotion, they often mean all the difference between looking wide awake and washed out on camera. You may even consider using a slightly darker brow pencil if you know you’ll be photographed, since features tend to look lighter in pictures.

8. Make sure your hair is shiny. “Spray-on shine is great for a last minute add-on shine,” says hair stylist Serge Normant, who’s worked with Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon, Julianne Moore and Sarah Jessica Parker throughout his years in the biz. He recommends misting hair with his Serge Normant Meta Sheer Dry Oil Finishing Spray ($24, shopsergenormant.com) for maximum gloss.

Essentials for photos

9. A photo can highlight flyaways, so make sure your style is sleek. “A good pomade or dry oil will help, but use lightly,” Normant advises. “If you are afraid to use too much, spray on your hands and then lightly try to control fizz.”

10. Look toward a light right before someone snaps your photo. Doing so will shrink your pupils and help you avoid red eye.

11. Surprise photo op? Try this five-second prep: Blot your face with a tissue or single-ply cocktail napkin, then pinch your cheeks to create a rosy glow (yep, it’s old school, but it works).

12. A couple drops of Visine will help your eyes look brighter and more awake.

13. Blush is a must! Without some color on your cheeks, your face can look two dimensional in photos. Use a medium pink shade on the apples of your cheeks to help shape your face.

14. Think about angles. Facing the camera straight on is rarely flattering; instead, turn your head to a three-quarter position to give your features depth.

15. Try the “red carpet” pose: put your hand on your hip, angle your body to the side and turn your head towards the camera. It’s a cliché, but it really does work to help you look slimmer.

Taylor Swift

16. Avoid serious sparkle on your face. “Anything too shimmery on the skin can just be too much in a photo,” Stiles says. “A soft glow is nice, but if you have oily skin it can really exaggerate shimmer and make you look very shiny. If you are a shimmer addict and just can’t help yourself, keep the face matte or semi-matte (a velvety finish). Add a little highlighter to just the tips of the cheekbones and the bridge of the nose with a powder highlighter that has a very soft sheen.”

17. On the other hand, a bit of sparkle below the neck can give your skin a pretty sheen. Dust your collarbone and shoulders with a shimmering powder such as Chanel Natural Finish Loose Powder in Moonlight ($52, chanel.com), which has the perfect finish for playing up assets.

18. Stand in front of a white wall. A light-colored backdrop will help brighten your face. Using a white background also helps a camera’s automatic settings find the right color balance, so your skin tone doesn’t end up looking too pink or yellow.

19. Wear bright lipstick. “Dark lipstick can have a minimizing effect on lips,” says Stiles. “Steer clear of a dark matte lip color. It can look aging and unflattering. Stick with brighter colors.”

20. Be in more pictures! People who think they’re unphotogenic tend to pose for fewer photos overall, but photography is a game of averages. Even Kate Moss doesn’t nail it on the first frame. The more shots you let your photographer take, the more likely you’ll be happy with one or two of them.

21. A photo shot from just above you is way more flattering than one shot from below. If you’re taller than the person holding the camera, grab a seat.

22. Avoid standing directly under a light, which can cast weird shadows on your face. Instead, stand facing a natural light source, such as a window, or in a spot where soft light hits your face from the side.

23. Grab a prop — preferably not a red Solo cup. Holding onto an object such as a flower or decoration can help you relax your posture and add personality to a picture.

24. To make your eyes sparkle, look at a light source. A lamp or brightly lit Christmas tree will create a flattering gleam in your pupils.

25. Forget saying “cheese,” and instead think of something funny. Better yet, joke with the photographer. A natural smile trumps a fake one every time.

How to Be Photogenic: 25 Tricks That Make You Instantly More Gorgeous in Pictures

25 tricks to look better in pictures 

This time of year can be a minefield of potentially awkward family photos, unflattering party pics and more snaps that just want to make you hit “untag.” Even if you love the way you look in person, it takes practice to make sure your in-the-flesh beauty translates on camera. The good news? Being photogenic is a skill you can totally master. Here are a few of our favorite tips that will help you bring out your inner Gisele.

1. If you tend to blink in photos, close your eyes just before the picture is taken and open them slowly before the camera clicks. No more half-closed eyes!

2. To avoid a double chin, elongate your neck and push your face forward a bit. Think of sticking out your forehead and tipping your chin slightly down. It might feel awkward, but it will look great — promise.

3. Make sure your makeup is a perfect match, says mark Celebrity Makeup Artist Fiona Stiles, who’s prepped everyone from Halle Berry to Jessica Chastain and Elizabeth Banks for the red carpet. “When a foundation is too pale for your skin tone, it becomes very obvious when a flash hits the skin.” She advises, “Match your skin to your chest and add a thin layer to your neck if your neck is paler (as is the case for most people).”

4. Curled lashes and mascara are musts, Stiles insists (she swears by mark Scanda-Lash Mascara). “Both open up your eyes, and the eyes are the focal point of a picture. You want to draw people into a picture, so you want to maximize the impact of the eyes. They more open they are, the more the light hits them and that’s what makes them twinkle!”

5. Take a look at your favorite pictures of yourself and try to spot a pattern. Do you like the way you look from a certain angle? When you smile a specific way? Try to replicate your best poses next time you have your photo taken.

6. Try this old school red carpet trick: Put your tongue behind your teeth when you smile to avoid a goofy, too-wide grin.

7. Fill in your brows. Not only do your eyebrows convey character and emotion, they often mean all the difference between looking wide awake and washed out on camera. You may even consider using a slightly darker brow pencil if you know you’ll be photographed, since features tend to look lighter in pictures.

8. Make sure your hair is shiny. “Spray-on shine is great for a last minute add-on shine,” says hair stylist Serge Normant, who’s worked with Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon, Julianne Moore and Sarah Jessica Parkerthroughout his years in the biz. 

 

Essentials for photos

Essentials for putting your best face forward.

 

9. A photo can highlight flyaways, so make sure your style is sleek. “A good pomade or dry oil will help, but use lightly,” Normant advises. “If you are afraid to use too much, spray on your hands and then lightly try to control fizz.”

10. Look toward a light right before someone snaps your photo. Doing so will shrink your pupils and help you avoid red eye.

11. Surprise photo op? Try this five-second prep: Blot your face with a tissue or single-ply cocktail napkin, then pinch your cheeks to create a rosy glow (yep, it’s old school, but it works).

12. A couple drops of Visine will help your eyes look brighter and more awake.

13. Blush is a must! Without some color on your cheeks, your face can look two dimensional in photos. Use a medium pink shade on the apples of your cheeks to help shape your face.

14. Think about angles. Facing the camera straight on is rarely flattering; instead, turn your head to a three-quarter position to give your features depth.

15. Try the “red carpet” pose: put your hand on your hip, angle your body to the side and turn your head towards the camera. It’s a cliché, but it really does work to help you look slimmer.

Taylor Swift

Taylor Swift demonstrates the classic red carpet pose.
Photo: Getty Images

 

16. Avoid serious sparkle on your face. “Anything too shimmery on the skin can just be too much in a photo,” Stiles says. “A soft glow is nice, but if you have oily skin it can really exaggerate shimmer and make you look very shiny. If you are a shimmer addict and just can’t help yourself, keep the face matte or semi-matte (a velvety finish). Add a little highlighter to just the tips of the cheekbones and the bridge of the nose with a powder highlighter that has a very soft sheen.”

17. On the other hand, a bit of sparkle below the neck can give your skin a pretty sheen. Dust your collarbone and shoulders with a shimmering powder such as Chanel Natural Finish Loose Powder in Moonlight ($52,chanel.com), which has the perfect finish for playing up assets.

18. Stand in front of a white wall. A light-colored backdrop will help brighten your face. Using a white background also helps a camera’s automatic settings find the right color balance, so your skin tone doesn’t end up looking too pink or yellow.

19. Wear bright lipstick. “Dark lipstick can have a minimizing effect on lips,” says Stiles. “Steer clear of a dark matte lip color. It can look aging and unflattering. Stick with brighter colors.”

20. Be in more pictures! People who think they’re unphotogenic tend to pose for fewer photos overall, but photography is a game of averages. Even Kate Moss doesn’t nail it on the first frame. The more shots you let your photographer take, the more likely you’ll be happy with one or two of them.

21. A photo shot from just above you is way more flattering than one shot from below. If you’re taller than the person holding the camera, grab a seat.

22. Avoid standing directly under a light, which can cast weird shadows on your face. Instead, stand facing a natural light source, such as a window, or in a spot where soft light hits your face from the side.

23. Grab a prop — preferably not a red Solo cup. Holding onto an object such as a flower or decoration can help you relax your posture and add personality to a picture.

24. To make your eyes sparkle, look at a light source. A lamp or brightly lit Christmas tree will create a flattering gleam in your pupils.

25. Forget saying “cheese,” and instead think of something funny. Better yet, joke with the photographer. A natural smile trumps a fake one every time.

The True Meaning Of Christmas & My Best Christmas Carol

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Christmas will always be for us
A time to reflect on Christ,
The gift God gave to all the world
Was the gift of His life

We know Christmas is not about tinsel,
Nor fancy Christmas wreaths,
Nor is it about all the decorations
That adorns our Christmas trees

And it’s not about Holly or Mistletoe
Hanging from our doors,
Nor is it about the gifts that are left
By the jolly Santa Claus

Christmas is more than all of this
And the only reason why
We celebrate Christ’s birth together
And the wonder of His life

So remember as you celebrate,
Just what it’s all about
And invite the Lord to join with you,
Instead of leaving Him out

For He will always be the reason
We celebrate this day,
No substitute the world may offer
Can take that meaning away.

O’Holy Night by RyanDan

Growing Up White In Apartheid South Africa by Adele Gould

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South Africa has lost our hero, muse, mentor and guardian. We are unlikely to witness a man of his stature, integrity and honour in our lifetimes and even in the next few generations to come. We have lost our Tata, Our Madiba … We have lost Nelson Mandela who after his long walk to freedom is finally free and at peace.

It still brings tears to my eyes as I think if how little I knew of the struggles this man endured so we could enjoy a free and democratic country, how naive was I to not comprehend the hatred and violence surrounding me as I grew up – a sheltered white South African.

It is because of this that I must share a story with you, a true story and one that does being a tear to my eye … Take a minute to read it and reflect on the authors words, feelings and experience – she is after all one of my favorite writers! Her honesty, transparency and use if words to paint a picture so clear and vivid both amazes and motivates me in my writing. Here is a snippet read the full story here

My Experiences as a White South African

The death of Nelson Mandela – my hero and the world’s icon – brings to the surface the deep shame I have carried with me for all of my adult life. I was once a typical white South African – privileged and spoiled – who learned by example to treat with disregard the needs and feelings of black people.

Having spent 29 years living under the Apartheid regime before immigrating to Canada almost 40 years ago, it is with pain and penetrating regret that I reflect upon my experience and transgressions.

10 IMPORTANT THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT WHAT MAKES A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

It may seem peculiar to some, that I often write blog posts about love, relationships and happily ever after … when I am single! It’s just that I cannot help but dream of meeting that person who will not complete me but rather complete life with me. Someone who loves me unconditionally for all my pros and cons, in sickness and health… etc. So who better to learn from then one of my good friends moms – who has been married in a fairy tale sort of way – recently celebrating her 27th wedding anniversary! He is my ex although we remain the best of friends in part because his mother is a shining example of strength, dignity, passion and intelligence and has passed these traits on to her sons.

It is little wonder she has this advice and incredible love story to share.

10 IMPORTANT THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT WHAT MAKES A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

What makes a good relationship

Celebrating 27 Years Together

I am writing from our hotel room in the beautiful Muskoka region of Ontario, Canada, where my husband and I are celebrating 27 years together (married for 17 of those). A burst of magnificent colour outside our window beckons us – the stunning display of fall foliage at its peak. My husband reads his newspaper beside me, one hand absentmindedly resting on my shoulder as I ponder over the question I’ve been asked to write about: What Makes a Good Relationship?

In an era that endures so many failed relationships I feel extremely fortunate to have a happy marriage. My husband and I hear over and over again from our children that our relationship gives them hope, and our friends frequently comment on the love and the harmony that is clearly evident in our marriage.

We have both been married before and have children from our previous marriages (eight between us!). So when one of them recently asked me to write a blog about what makes a good relationship I had to think carefully about what it is that we actually do that has contributed to our success, since at this stage it’s simply the way we are.

What makes a good relationship

Commonalities

As I look back I remember clearly how – in our very first conversation – we discovered that both of our parents were seniors in happy long term marriages, that we have children of similar ages – each with a set of twins – and that we come from the same ethnic background. As time marched on we discovered more similarities. We have similar religious beliefs, enjoy the same movies and TV shows, and seek similar vacation activities (both love beaches, nature and beautiful scenery and don’t like touring cities and museums). We are both self-sufficient, enjoy solitude and dislike large gatherings.

In all likelihood these commonalities contribute positively to our relationship, but we also need strategies, skills and techniques to deal with the myriad of relationship issues that inevitably crop up. I came up with a list of ten things that we do that help strengthen our marriage, and – while I do not claim to be a relationship expert – would venture to say that these points may be of use to other couples looking for ideas about building a healthy relationship.

What makes a good relationship

So – What Have I Learned About What Makes a Good Relationship?

1. Accepting Differences

Perhaps the toughest challenge we encountered was learning to manage the many differences that gradually emerged between us. To name a few – my husband is passionate about politics – my passions are music and dance. While I have several hobbies (woodcarving, writing and photography) my husband is a news freak. I’m a spender; he is a saver (but with that is very generous). I’m a ‘glass half full’ person – he views his glass as half empty. He tends to be a somewhat private person; I am an open book. We also have different dietary tastes and different sleeping patterns.

Over the years these differences intruded on our lives and caused friction as each of us tried to change the other. When that didn’t work we moved to resignation before ultimately arriving at genuine acceptance. It was a difficult but worthwhile journey from which we learned the big lesson: we can’t change other people! Once we got through the eye of the needle we found that our relationship grew increasingly peaceful and harmonious, and the differences ceased to matter. In fact they make the relationship more interesting, as we continually learn from each other.

2. Communication

Second only to the resolution of differences is the acquisition of good communication skills, which we learned over time, aided by the fact that as a social worker I had to learn how to communicate constructively. We talk. A lot. At all times we speak respectfully, never raising our voices to each other, and quick to apologize when necessary. Aside from exchanging the minutiae of our daily lives, we talk about contentious issues as they arise, never sweeping things under the rug – so there is no build up of resentment over unresolved conflicts. Also, knowing that neither one of us can read minds, we ask for what we want rather than hoping or expecting that somehow our unexpressed needs will be met. We share thoughts, feelings and experiences – the good, the bad and the ugly – thereby enhancing the emotional and physical intimacy between us. No subject is off limits and we hide nothing from each other.

These communication skills were acquired over time – they didn’t appear overnight.

3. Trust

Integral to our relationship is trust, an issue we discussed on our first date, when we both voiced the belief that cheating in a relationship is a deal breaker. In our marriage trust is simply a given.

4. Commitment

Our commitment to each other and to our marriage is solid, and does not waver, even through the challenging times (which are part and parcel of all relationships). This means that the love we feel for each other is not conditional – it is a constant upon which we can both depend. Similarly, no matter what struggles we encounter we know that we can rely on each other for practical and/or emotional support.

5. Thoughtfulness

That brings me to the notion of thoughtfulness. How do we know we are loved? We know this by the little demonstrations … the loving gestures that remind each of us that we are important to the other. Phone calls just to say hello, unexpected hugs and kisses, holding hands, or saying “I love you’’ several times a day – these are just a few examples.

6. Together Time

Creating regular time together – uninterrupted – is important to us since it is our opportunity to shut out the world. . We enjoy each other’s company and love being alone together. We also enjoy companionable silence, each immersed in our own activity yet still feeling close.

7. Task Sharing

In our household there are no assigned roles. We share tasks based on which one of us is available to do the task, or who is more competent at any given task. We both enjoy having order in our home, so we automatically clean up after ourselves

8. Money Management

We combine our incomes – so whatever money comes in goes into a joint bank account, and before we buy any big-ticket item we discuss it. And when we buy birthday gifts for our children and grand children we spend an equal amount on each.

9. Connection to Family

We are both involved in the everyday lives of the two sets of families, devoting time to spend with both, including extended family as well as our children and grandchildren.

10. Humour

And last – but most definitely not least – we laugh a lot – almost every day. We tease each other mercilessly (but never unkindly), find humour in unusual places, and laugh about funny incidents that happened in the past.

Gratitude

Until now I had not stopped to think about the specific ways in which we ourselves are responsible for having such a happy marriage. I simply sat back and reveled in the peace and harmony that permeates our relationship and our home. It hasn’t always been smooth sailing, and sometimes we wonder how we made it through the tough times. Perhaps we were implementing many of the strategies without having a name for what we were doing? And now, as we celebrate this anniversary surrounded by the stunning kaleidoscope of vibrant colour, I realize how fortunate I am to have this loving relationship, and I stop for a moment to hold my husband’s hand and bask in the gentle and abiding love that flows between us.

What makes a good relationship

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